I just turned 23 a few days ago, and been thinking a little about marriage.
how about others, I wonder what they feel for their own story life?
I'd like to see one or two couples from this forum to get along, well, try the other guys, I'm quite reserved right now.. even the other gals who knows me gives envy eyes already.. saa..
what I understood, getting along is really not enough.. need to really sync, knows how to give in, give out, and most important, know when to back down and forgive.
I'm the teaching type, but I cant say I'm knowledgeable. Still many many things to discover. Sharing knowledge is, what they say, as a charity for the ones whom does not know.
Like to dedicate the Saigo no Kajitsu (w/o maaya) for those whom interested in this topic
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ONLY 23, you are still young. You should have plenty of time to dwell on this in the future.
'Miss right' has still eluded me, not that I've seriously looked. Most of the women I click with tend to be from another country or , um, married (it's true, the good ones are always taken ).
I wonder if it's better to actively seek or trust dumb luck on this matter? Both have vantages, ad and dis, and it depends on your personality. Strong introverts (like me) have problems in normal social situations, opening up to a woman is really hard. Wow, now I'm depressed.
I would like to dedicate 'Kodoku' to all the other shy introverts out there.
I've liked to think like an underdog sometimes, livin in the getto side of the world and such. Marriage there has been simple, just probably it's different from the west and the east, nor in asia. Point is, get married, get laid, and start a new path together.
If you can cope those few ideas, then you shouldn't have any sort of problem. I've seen people set up barriers within themselves (playing with their minds) because of too much jpop/kpop otakuness, or even watched too much dramas on television. The thing is marriage is simple, our parents do it, our grandparents does it.
Nowdays it's all "sad", "depressing", many kinds of symbolic wrong idealistic selfish thoughts that we picked up everywhere.. I'm giving a free advice, because sometimes letting go of the wrong thoughts can open many possibilities in the future.
Girls or guys should start thinking straight, just work things out together, talk with their families, gather around, talk some more, do family activities, then when financially stable, should just give it a shot.
Right. Stick with the original plan. Be human.
That's all it has to take.
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marriage. is it a simple thing?? some of my friend have been married,, and they seem to be a little bit different. when u'r married, you only focus to ur family, how to get money to earn food, to buy ur wife a jewelry, to pay to all of those electric, water, and phone bill.. just routines. am i prepared for that? i dun really sure about that. not to mention u have to be wise,, in times u should be a good husband, a good father, a good worker or even a good neighbour.. man. and so many tiny details. i just dunno about that. love isn't enough, of course. a lot of people didn't prepare the required amount of motivation, thoughtfullness and skills so they simply married just to fullfill the requirement to be deserved to be called a human in a society. that's it. then they have quarrels,they divorced.. their life ruin. what are them robots?? well, mybe i just exaggerating it.
yet, if u think it again and again, without making improvement of urself u probably won't get married until u realized it's too late. well, that would be troublesome too.
then what im doing right now, im just facing this path one step by step,, learning new things from people.. and see if i have the ability to turn out to be the person i should be before i starting to think marriage. and i think im moving,, eventhough really slowly.
moreover, being urself is the best solution in facing the real world. just fake smile won't do.. u must do things that is pure from ur heart. and that by doing that u feel the most happy!! then myb u wouldn't regret a thing.
just close your eyes and follow your HEART --> vanished to dust T.
Marriage is a religious institution. If you're not religious (or you don't want a huge party and bragging about how amazing your love is in front of friends) then there isn't much point.
I don't ever want to get married, I see absolutely no point. But fair enough for people who do, especially if they're confident enough to walk in front of friends and family and do something very (VERY) personal in front of so many people.
I just met her mum yesterday, went to kuala lumpur convention center (KLCC) and some other place, with one of her elder sister escorting us.
A lot of chocolates, as a present for me
Now rewatching Imai's Milestone 20th anniversary DVD
Life is unfolding, luving maaya isnt everything
Find something in common, we both love listening to Miki Imai, well she gets annoyed when I listen too much of Maaya songs, well the usual, always day in day out talked about her and the lyrics, lol. Miki Imai is married, well I have no drive with her, but her songs are nice
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I see. So next time we'll have a newly wed couple here.. Let's hope so. I mean meeting her mom?? Escort??? It's sound good imo.
Sakura, i partially agree with you. Being married or no is a part of believe.. It's the same thing if ur living in a house together with another guy/girl.. married or not married. But i prefer the first. Being married I think Ill be a more responsible, thoughtful person towards my family. Not to mention i'm a moslem too. Marriage is a must, in our believe. I see nothing wrong with it.. The most important point is the consistent pace of mind and heart and an adjustable emotion.
just close your eyes and follow your HEART --> vanished to dust T.
Guffaw.. I guess its still a long road ahead. The attempt was good, but the family gave a counterattack soon after.. It shucked. There is still a lot for me to learn from this, meeting teh mom aint everything. Still the federates (the father mainly) in the family still put up an effort of fighting me off. I probably just got 2/6 vote. Still working it up, slowly.
I'm serious, it's hard work.. @#%$.. sometimes I just think this is too much for me, but thinking back we went far together, so I think we let it survive a bit more. If it really hits a big wall, I hope at that moment some of my tricks would still work.
I'm going on casual mode now, still have tons to study and tons of work that has to be done. I'll focus on that first.
By the way, anyone out there already had a relationship before / breakups? wanna talk about it here? maybe there's some experience we can share or talk about. A 'her' question or 'his' questions are all okay also
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just curious, immu-san.. does ur girl wears a ??.. sorry dunno the word for that, it's "jilbab" in our languange,, for me hair and neck is what usually made me interested from a woman's body in a first place. but anyway, in moslem a girl who wears that cloth usually have a kind hearted too.. so i don't mind it. patience is the key. how about you?
just close your eyes and follow your HEART --> vanished to dust T.
God, for a minute there, I thought you ask that was she wearing an undies XD (quote from "does ur girl wears a ??..")
Yup, she wears the head scarf, and I asked her to wear it. Her sisters all wear it, well she looks more cute now XD
About scarf, wearing it doesnt mean that a person is good or such, even here in my country it became a trend and somewhat to find the right girl, you have to observe more intensely. In general most muslim girls are virgins, but sometimes, some girls took advantage of wearing the scarf to cover their pasts. it all depends on the individual itself. In religion context, well you know.. it's said that every hair is later counted at the hour, that was shown not to her relatives / husband will be burned in hellfire. Hence that why most muslims wears it. In logical form, its a moderation to them, as guys gets horny when we see girls are under-dressed. Asians are like that, so it's common here. In Arabia, the hijab is more complete then the ones here in Asia, but seriously a human is still human, we deprive ourselves from adoring sins, but sometimes cant avoid it anyway. Total achievement of a good society only happens when all of society actually plays a role in the society to help each other maintaining the peace and order.
To simplify, personally I like the girls to be more concise on how they look outside, because in a way they are respecting the boundaries that God intended them to be. Just it was tedious in this world, what's important is that this world becomes a presentation that will decide on where we will end up later after end of our life.
Either way, it will be good for all.
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i like girls with no 'jilbab' more from a guy point of view,, i just can't bare that side of me.. Eventhough i know i should be thinking more from the religious side.. But you're right too about the thing, not all girls wearing 'jilbab' are decent,, When the inner self is good,, it doesn't matter if she wears jilbab or not.. Still, again from a guy point of view. In my colleague however, since it has quite a healthy surrounding environment,, the girls at the mosque mostly really have a nice inner-self too,, from some of the girls i know.
and of course i read masakazu katsura's and oh! great mangas too,, I know,, im not consistent
just close your eyes and follow your HEART --> vanished to dust T.
Hihi, kirei usually when at home, wives are actually very very "open" with their husband, just that when going out into the public they wear the scarf. More likely to only give a special attention only to the husband, like saying "my beauty is only for you, my darling XD" hmm should I explain further?
because girls whom are beautiful at highest level only when they "open" everything right? but by wearing the scarf it avoids the lust of other men and in the same process, reserves more respect to them. It avoids one major problem, jealousy of other men onto your wife's beauty. You cant miss that fact, no waii XD
It actually reconfigure the real aspects of modesty into a new level, but just that a lot of people doesn't think so. Personally, it's something that the prophet (messenger) suggested, and he is being concisely and strictly that all woman whom embraces Islam wears it, no matter what they have to say. keke but apparently today its not like before, it's just turned so low like a fashion.. damn
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